The Knockoff

Oh, one of my very favorite topics to discuss: shoes.

Shoes are basically my favorite accessory because they can bring a new and beautiful addition to any outfit.  They add pops of color, height, and confidence to a woman's look.

A woman must know, however, the right kind of shoe.  Sure, all women have different price levels, but let's be completely honest.  Christian Louboutin and Manolo Blahnik trump all other shoe designers.

Of course, I can't afford to have a closet full of those beauties, even though I am lucky enough to have just one gorgeous red-soled shoe grace my shelves.  But, I know what the affordable and quality shoe designers are.  It is necessary to understand that a woman's life depends on the shoes she wears. Regardless of if a woman can afford a patent leather Louboutin or not, one should not be buying shoes from the sale rack at Payless, just because they are cheaper.

Shoes and relationships can go hand in hand.  When one thinks about it, a shoe is just as important in a woman's life as her other half.  If one has good taste and waits to buy those classic patent leather Manolo mary-janes that Carrie believed were the "urban shoe myth", then she is also likely to have the patience and realization that a good man comes with time.  Now, if you are willing to pay for those $10 sandals from Payless, then you are going to end up with trash on your feet and on your arm.

I will be honest, I have bought cheaper pairs of shoes before, but I usually just needed them in a bind, or they were an impulse buy.  And there are exceptions.  I bought nude heels from Target years ago, and they have now just started to wear out.  On the other hand, the most uncomfortable pair of shoes I own are from Target.  So, there are both sides.

But generally, I feel that shoes that are well made and gorgeous, are worth the time and money.  Sure, Carrie needed to work harder to make money for the shoes she wanted, but in the end it was absolutely worth it.  The same thing goes for men.  When a woman wants a real man, she waits for it.  She does not settle for the cheap thing that is easy to find.

Remember, a knockoff may last a few years, the real thing lasts a lifetime.

My Own Berger Experience

Jack Berger.

Certain publications have actually ranked him high on the list of Carrie's boyfriends.

To me, and most women who are religious watchers of Sex and the City, Berger has to be the worst possible boyfriend in Sex and the City history.

Berger seemed nice at first.  He was funny, smart, cute, and a writer like Carrie.  Carrie was consumed with him and wanted to date him immediately.

Part of me thinks she was only lonely, something she claimed at her book party, but I can see her attraction to him.

However, it was clear from the beginning how wrong he was for her and in life.

First, he collects playing cards and must sleep with a sound machine, courtesy of his ex.  Red flags, anyone?

His true colors begin to show as their relationship continues.  As Carrie's book becomes more and more successful, Berger begins to be threatened by her success and honestly just looks like a weak man who can't stand to be around strong and powerful women.  Which I experience on a daily basis, and it is absolutely demeaning and frustrating.

I am still very confused as to why she wanted to be with him.  Not only is he a total jerk and scared of women who are opinionated, but he also was not good in bed and they had to make the bed a restaurant in order to have good sex.  Big freaking red flag.

But, the absolute worst thing that Berger did was how he broke up with Carrie.

Need I say more?

The Post-It Note break up has got to be the worst break up in history by any lowlife scumbag man.  I mean honestly, how can you end any relationship by bringing a woman flowers, staying the night, and then disappear the next morning only leaving a post-it note saying you "can't".

I actually never thought I would have an experience like this, but I have.  It's completely hurtful and childish.  

Sigma Kappa had a date party just last night and I had a date and everything.  He was cute and seemed really nice and seemed excited.  We had talked for a few days and we were getting along great.  He even said so!  So when I did not hear from him yesterday at all, I was totally humiliated.  I think guys think I want some serious relationship or marriage when all I want is someone to talk to and go to socials with.  Literally last minute, this guy bails after not speaking to me, when I had tried to contact him.  No apologies, no nothing.  Haven't heard from him since.  

I went to the date party anyway because I can't change who I am.  I am opinionated, smart, aggressive, and a little bitchy.  Okay, a lot bitchy.  But I am not the ideal girl that these boys go after.  You know the ones, the girls who have zero brains and nothing to say and just stand there next to some boy and look pretty.  

See, that's not me.  That's not Carrie, either.  We are both strong and smart women who speak their minds and that is nothing to be ashamed of.

So, instead of messing around with these boys who will never want me, I just have to wait for the right man who will love my sick sense of humor, my sometimes obnoxious nature, and my opinions.  

Also, boys only break up with girls through a Post-It or text.  Men would never let you go.

Some are just not worth it.

Men. Or boys.

I feel as if I have only come across boys at my time at UT.  There is no such thing as men on this campus... or at least not in my experience.  It's incredibly frustrating.  Especially when I know that this thing called "man" does exist.

Examples: my dad, my best friends' boyfriends, and just genuine guys that are my friends, but neither of us are interested in each other in that way.

I am a wild and strong personality and am confident in the way I come across to people.  I curse too much and spill things on myself and speak my mind.  I am too forward when it comes to boys, but honestly it's because they are just that-- boys.

A man would never let me be forward because they would come up to me first, right?  My friends tell me how they met their boyfriends, or in the words of Carrie, "man friend" (which sounds like a dog, as said by Big), and I know that their relationships started because of the man.

But, I am someone who goes for what I want in all aspects of life, whether it is school, in my sorority, and yes, boys.  So, boys are taken aback when I go after what I want.  My strong personality that has been with me ever since I was little, and one I cannot get rid of scares off these boys.

It is incredibly annoying.

And of course, I always think it's me.  But, I know it's not at the same time.

I just have to wait.  One of my best friends had waited for such a long time and is the happiest she has ever been because she met the man of her dreams.

At this point, I just want to focus on my sisters and family.  They are the ones that truly care about me.  And of course... why do we always focus on the thing that we don't have when all of the things we do have are fabulous?

Plus, let's be honest.  Men will never fulfill you as much as the bond you have with your friends.  The bond I have with my sisters, even through fights, is stronger than any other relationship I ever had, other than with my family.  Through everything, they are there for me at my best and worst.  When I'm feeling lonely, I remember they are my soul mates.

SIGMA LOVE AND MINE.

--Samantha

Spring Break Inspired by Carrie

Spring Break is upon UT.  We have one week until most of UT goes to either Destin or Panama.  Of course, I cannot prepare for a spring break trip without thinking about Sex and the City and the adventures the girls had in the Hamptons (ugh! jealous!).  So here is a list to remember when we are all on our vacations next week.

1. We all love tanning, but remember to wear sunscreen!  Red skin is so not cute.

2. Change up your swimsuit attire.  In the Twenty Something Girls vs. Thirty Something Women episode, Carrie wears swim trunks with her bikini top, and if you don't believe me, go watch it.  Super chic and you don't have to bear it all one day!

3. Stay away from guys that are sketch and and maybe not in your appropriate age range.  Who knows what you might pick up.

4. However, be open to meeting new people, you never know what could come from it.

5. Pack everything you might need, but be mindful of the space in your friend's trunk.

6. Try to keep it as classy as possible.  Get to a bathroom if you aren't feeling well.  The beach is not a toilet, unless you just ran into your ex with someone that is way younger than you.  Then it's acceptable.

7. Spring Break is your time to hang out with your friends and relax and let off a little steam.  It is not the time to acquire someone who is wanting you as their mentor.  Just tell them you will call them when you are back home.

8. Be the bigger person if you see your enemy, which is bound to happen since next week UT will basically be relocated to Destin or Panama.  Like Samantha helped the girl who took over her clients for the Hampton Hoedown, just be kind and everything works out in the end.

9. Look fabulous if you see your ex.  And plan to hate whatever girl he is with.

10. Make sure your friends are there for you when something goes wrong for you on the trip, like seeing your ex.  Of course be there for them as well.  Stick with your friends because they wouldn't be true friends if you weren't going on vacation with them!!

Most importantly, HAVE FUN AND BE SAFE!

Be the Stanford to my Carrie.

I got to thinking about a new blog and what I wanted it to be about.  My two loves in life are fashion and Sex and the City.  So what could be better than a blog completely devoted to my love for Carrie Bradshaw, her fashion, and the show?


Anyway, I have been thinking lately about guys.  I know, typical girl in college, especially one in a sorority, thinking about who she is going to ask to the next date party.  But seriously, it is difficult jumping from guy to guy on a Friday night at the club, when my best friend has the sweetest boyfriend ever.

Trust me, I have had plenty of pity parties.  But really, that's pointless.  I mean guys don't care if you're lonely on a weekday night and just want to hang out.  Most of them just want someone to go home with on the weekend, then never speak to you again.  I'm over it.

So, I have decided to pretty much not care about boys or what they think of me or how I should come off to them or that I need to play it cool around them.  Because, once again, they don't care.  So, instead, I think it is better to focus on what I like doing and what makes me happy!

Classic Miranda when Carrie was dating that complete idiot Berger:

"Remember you?  What do you want?"

Another perfect solution: why not forget the guys who only want to hurt women, when in fact there is a perfect group of men out there who definitely do not want to screw over women, literally.

Let's think about it-- gay men are the perfect date, no pressure to do anything and they won't expect anything from you except a fabulous friendship.

When Berger was acting like an idiot, I mean when was he not, Carrie took Stanford to Smith Jared's big opening night in Brooklyn.

Remember when Stanford took Carrie to the prom??  And that was because even his significant other was being a douche.

So the moral of the story is, men suck, even the gay ones sometimes.